In the world of non-monogamy, swinger dating is a welcome option. But most mainstream dating sites don’t offer it. Instead, they cater to singles looking for a more traditional type of relationship, which makes finding other local swingers a bit of a challenge.
Thankfully, the internet exists and lives for entertaining niche groups interested in swinger sex dating, BDSM dating, and all other forms of kink. However, knowing what sites are worth your time can get to be a little hectic–especially if you don’t have hours to spend scouring through sites like Reddit and SiteJabber to find your best fit. Luckily for you, we’ve done all the hard work and provided you with a list of 10 swingers dating sites that have brought success to its users. You’re welcome–and don’t forget to use protection!
Best Swingers Sites 2020
Swinger dating sites that actually deliver
1) Adult Friend Finder
AdultFriendFinder is easily one of the best options as swinger dating sites come (it’s also worth mentioning this platform also supports fling dating, BDSM dating, and all other dating styles). Why? Because it not only hosts the world’s largest online sex and swinger community, but it’s also gay-friendly and offers subscribers access to thousands of articles and member blogs devoted to sex, dating, and more. So if you’re looking for more than just a fling, but maybe some other kinksters to discuss your practices with, this site is for you. Think of it as Facebook but for alternative dating.
AFF supports direct messaging and email, “flirting” which is like sending a Facebook poke, virtual gifts, blogging, live broadcasts, groups, adult chat rooms, photo contests, and even gives members the option to buy classes through the Sex Academy. There’s even an app for mobile users!
The site is free to join but in order to access the more risque content or have a boosted VIP profile, you’ll need to upgrade to Gold membership.
2) Swap Finder
This swingers dating site doesn’t have the reputation of AdultFriendFinder, but it’s just as reliable. And to be fair, it has a much cleaner interface–which I know may not matter in the grand scheme of things, but it certainly makes using the site much easier to manage.
Swap Finder is also a part of the Friend Finder networks, which means a lot of the available content is similar to that of AdultFriendFinder. So users can join for free but need to upgrade in order to take advantage of all the site’s perks like instant messaging and being able to view someone’s full profile.
3) SwingerDateLink
Called one of the best swinger dating sites by reviewers, SwingerDateLink may be one of the smallest sites on this list but as they say, good things come in small packages! Because instead of worrying about messaging a bot or someone who could potentially stand you up, according to users, the only people on this site are serious about finding some paired or swapped fun. The site supports free video and audio chatting for members, but by far the best perk is the variety of chat settings. So if you only want to deal with serious inquiries, set your chat to only be available for Premium (or paid) users. And if you’re worried about disclosing your relationship preferences, members can also choose to hide their profile while still searching for a match.
SwingerDateLink is free to join and offers limited messaging and search features for users. However, if you’d like the full experience complete with unlimited access to very specific (AKA expanded) search features and chat settings, you’ll need to upgrade to a paid membership.
4) SDC.com
Swinger dating sites come and go, but SDC (Swingers Date Club) has held a steady hand in the game since 2000. And that probably has something to do with the fact that this site focuses on bringing its members together IRL by hosting both public and private (or invite-only) events. SDC also differs from its competition by offering advanced search features–and we’re not talking about traditional search requests (like age and location), but rather queries concerning one’s sexual desires (like active involvement, voyeurism, and the like). Additionally, the site is also popular for its “swingers getaway” feature which allows singles/couples/groups to book a sextastic vacation that you’re unlikely to find elsewhere. If you’re familiar with r/Swingers, you’ve most likely heard of this site as Redditors have recommended it ad nauseam.
SDC is free to join and offers limited benefits to free members, but paid members do unlock exclusive perks (like live cams and unlimited chatting).
5) Swing Lifestyle
Another one of the most talked about sites on Reddit, Swing Lifestyle can get you exactly what you’re looking for–flings, dates, weekends away–as long as you’re willing to pay for it. Previously the site offered free chat for users, but now that’s become a paid-only aspect, along with its vacation booking features. The only free features are limited access to the forums, “hot dates” (which is like a calendar of events), profile searching and member blocking. But unlike most other swinger dating sites, Swing Lifestyle works like the Yellow Pages for swingers, helping users find local clubs, groups, parties, and communities dedicated to the lifestyle.
6) Into the Lifestyle
According to reviewers, Into the Lifestyle is one of the best swingers dating sites for people who live in North America (and more specifically, Canada). The site considers itself the social networking of swingers dating because it verifies all members (not just the paid ones) so you can be sure that who you meet online is also who you’ll be meeting IRL. Into the Lifestyle also offers more than just matching services, but blogs, events, a podcast, NSFW video calls, and photos, too!
Joining is free and all new members receive a limited free trial of the service, but it is a paid site, so users will eventually have to subscribe in order to access the member benefits.
7) Swingular
According to Redditors, this particular swinger dating site is a huge hit in Utah (so specific, I know). But if it works there, it should work anywhere in the good ol’ US of A! Swingular offers members access to adult personals and ads, so once you find the arrangement you’re looking for, the experience is no more than a click away. Additionally, Swingular’s interface makes it easy to spot a potential match without endless hours of searching since each profile is highly detailed and every ad is classified into a specific category (like Booty Calls, Meetups, Vacations, Parties/Events, etc.). Swingular even hosts a directory of all your local swingers clubs in case you prefer to meet people in a more natural setting.
Swingular is free to join and all new users are automatically granted a free two-week trial of Silver membership. After those two weeks, your trial will expire and you’ll be downgraded to a Bronze membership which offers limited access to the site. However, you can choose to upgrade to a monthly subscription plan to reinstate your status, making you a Gold member, or you can choose to pay once for life and upgrade to a Platinum membership.
8) Kasidie
As free swinger dating sites come, reviewers claim that Kasidie is superior when it comes to contacts and networking. The site supports anonymous browsing, unlimited photo uploads, parties/events, forums, chat rooms, instant messaging, secret communities, and swinger club listings. Basically, this site is what you make of it, meaning if you’re looking for a BDSM swap or exhibitionist play, you can find it all in one place–Kasidie.com.
Joining Kasidie is free, as are most of the features (like search, emailing, some parties, and friending). But if you’re looking to enjoy all the site’s offerings (like porn, podcasts, access to all the event pages, and instant messaging, etc.) you’ll have to upgrade to Elite membership.
9) Quiver
Reviewers on Reddit consider Quiver to be one of the best swinger dating sites for a few reasons. Besides the numerous success stories, Quiver has a sleek, easy-to-use interface and supports mobile users, as well as events, chatting, and befriending new members. Quiver also gives users the options to adjust who can see their profile in search results–verified users, premium users, singles, couples, you get the idea. Quiver also grants users access to a directory of clubs and events, so you never have to worry about not being able to find members IRL.
Joining Quiver is free, but unpaid members only receive limited access to photo galleries, restricted to 30 posts a month, and 20 chat credits per month. Free users are also unable to upload videos. So if those restrictions sound like something you absolutely cannot deal with, you’ll have to upgrade to a paid membership.
10) Swinger Zone Central
If you’re only concerned about active users (and none of those fancy features that other sites flaunt) Swinger Zone Central is the best swinger dating site for you. According to Reddit, some of the more notable features are the site’s large active user base, its easy-to-use interface, and the ability to see who viewed your profile. In addition to all that, Swinger Zone Central also supports instant messaging, forums/blogging, live chat, party/event sharing, and more (like a sex toy store!).
Swinger Zone Central is free to join, but Premium users get special perks like being able to use the site without uploading a public profile picture.
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