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Taking Ownership: I Collared Myself To Celebrate My Growth and Wellbeing
Summer Tao writes on the significance of collaring in BDSM — and how that led to self collaring and taking ownership of herself — for Cashmere Magazine.
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What Are Sex Hangovers? Experts Explore The Complex Emotions That Can Arise After Hooking Up
Cashmere contributor Hannah Shewan Stevens explains what a sex hangover is and details how to avoid them, alongside experts Emme Witt and Charlotte Fox Weber, in an exclusive explainer.
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Aftercare Isn’t Just Important in BDSM — It’s Essential
“Moments of checking in with yourself and your partners are vital. More importantly, they foster the kind of intimate, clear communication that maximizes the pleasure of BDSM.”
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Breathplay: The Risks, Rewards, and Science of Fetish Asphyxiation
“Breath play is not limited to choking, despite being the most prevalent way the kink is explored.”
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Not So Vanilla: Breaking Down the Basics of BDSM
“BDSM must be built upon a culture of consent, without it BDSM is simply an avenue for abuse.”
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A Black Dungeon Party Reaffirmed My Inner Kinkster
“Marginalized people deserve contrasts of hard and soft, control and surrender–to their wills.”
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I Had Mixed Feelings About My First Threesome: Confronting The Good, Bad, and Ugly
“Threesomes exist in the context of fantasy and porn, depending on the person you encounter. As a fantasy for myself, I pictured two men taking the utmost care of me, going slow, and satisfying my every need as two are better than one right?”
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Can You Develop A Kink?
“Kinkiness is part of a person’s personality – the fiber of their sexual being – and believing you can mold your pleasure at will is like trying to cum on command.”
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Not as seen on TV: NYC dominatrix Melody Mars sets media misconceptions about BDSM dungeons straight
“The reality is that BDSM, both as a subculture and in its representation in film and television, is seen with a growing level of acceptance is due to the hard-laboring, LGBTQIA+, BIPOC sex workers and activists who put in the work of protesting and fighting for our right to exist without fear or persecution.”
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After years of stripping, I felt burnt out from sex work. Kink reignited my flame
“The first time I walked into a man’s living room in my 8-inch heels and a strap-on harness as he looked up at me with eyes full of anticipation and nervousness, something fell into place.”
